Spotlight On! Asperger Experts: Help & Solutions from 2 People with Aspergers

With so many people on the Autism Spectrum posting stories, experiences, tips and other advice online, I can’t help but share with you another favorite.  Meet Danny & Hayden!

As the creators of Asperger Experts, Danny & Hayden offer what they call “Help & Solutions from 2 People with Aspergers.”

About 5 months ago they posted a video called The Aspergers “Sensory Funnel”. In this video, Danny explains how a ‘bottoms up’ approach can help with the every day struggles people with Aspergers face. It is a great explanation of how sensory processing problems can exasperate other issues.

Asperger Experts also offer coaching and mentoring services. Their services are offered over the phone or on Skype and come in packs of 5 1-hr sessions.

About Danny and Hayden

Danny was diagnosed with Aspergers at age 12 when his parents started noticing he was having difficulty focusing at school. He is in charge of marketing, psychology and video at Asperger Experts. Danny is also working on a Psychology degree at Metro State University in Denver, Colorado.

Diagnosed at age 5, Hayden didn’t know he had Aspergers until he was 12. Hayden is in charge of writing, social skills and media at Asperger Experts. He is also earning his degree in Journalism in Denver, Colorado.

Please visit Asperger Experts on Facebook, Twitter and YouTube

Contact Danny & Hayden directly via email:

Danny@aspergerexperts.com
Hayden@aspergerexperts.com

Walking Down the Street: A Simulation

Last week, I came across a video I really want to share with you called What It’s Like to Walk Down the Street When You Have Autism or an ASD. Because I have nothing to compare “normal” to, I found this video really helpful.

Although walking down the street seems like such a simple thing to do, its not so easy when you’re noticing every single aspect of your environment. Hearing every sound.

Now I am realizing how different I really am.

Check it out and tell me what you think!

Aspienwomen: Adult Women with Asperger Syndrome. Moving towards a female profile of Asperger Syndrome

Tania A. Marshall, M.Sc.

 

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Aspienwomen : Adult Women with Asperger Syndrome. Moving towards a female profile of Asperger Syndrome. This blog has been viewed more than 500,000 times since I initially wrote it and was the inspiration for my second book, released August 29th, 2015, Foreword by Dr. Shana Nichols. and now an international bestseller. I am pleased to announce this book just received a 2016 IPPY eLit Gold Medal award in the ‘Women’s Issues’ category. This book is available at http://www.aspiengirl.com, Amazon, the Australian Council for Educational Research (ACER) and other fine bookstores.

Tania is available for fee-based in-person or Skype remote assessments, consultations, problem-solving sessions, intervention, and support. She also works regularly with a variety of professionals in many countries, in the areas of referrals and assisting individuals to obtain and/or receive an assessment, diagnosis…

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Am I a Criminal?

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In my last blog, Who’s the Weird One?, I told you about how I discovered Aspergers and received an unofficial diagnosis. Adults with Aspergers can find it just as hard to make friends, and interact socially, as some children do. So I got a great idea! (not really) I thought I should try to make a friend. Of course, I have very mixed feelings about making friends and socializing in general.

I really wish I would have read Ways Adults with Aspergers Syndrome Can Improve Their Social Skills before embarking on my latest adventure. Had I read this article, things might have gone better.

Here’s the story…

There is a church within walking distance of my apartment and I’ve been wanting to go and check it out for about a year. I decided to call instead and a cheerful woman answered the phone. I explained that wanted to see if there was anyone willing to meet with me one on one because I really didn’t want to go to a crowded church service. They were willing to meet my request and I was set up for coffee with a woman from the church.

We had coffee on Friday and I was nervous. I secretly hoped the conversation would go in the direction of an offer of a small volunteer position. That’s what I wanted. Maybe one day a week. I wanted to get to know people slowly but with a function. I wanted to do something.

Here’s where it went wrong…

This woman was not interested in getting to know me and helping me get integrated or assimilated or whatever. She was pressed to find out if I was living with my fiancé. She asked me about it 3 times.

“Do you live with your parents?” she asked.

“No, I live on my own.” I said.

I never avoided her question. I answered the same way all three times. I wasn’t looking for an interrogation. Now, I was not happy.

Then she looked at me straight in the eyes and asked me again! It was that look when your mom catches you in a lie. It wasn’t a lie. I don’t live with my parents which means I live on my own. That’s what I said. Three times.

I am a Christian too but I still do not understand the point of this type of questioning of a stranger. It’s not right.

I tried standing up for myself but I’m terrible at that. Instead, I agreed to meet with her again next week. And now, I’m trying to decide how to avoid ever seeing her again.

If you want to hear more about Aspie believers and church, don’t forget to check out Brant Hansen’s opinion piece on CNN.com.

‘Mr. Spock Spock Goes to Church’: How one Christian copes with Asperger’s Syndrome

sh*t autism parents do– autistic kids on youtube.

I didn’t know parents were posting these videos on YouTube until recently. Plainly, I think it’s wrong. However, I’m sure there is a good and possibly helpful intention behind most of them. (I hope anyway)

This post reminded me of this stupid video I saw last week. I could hardly stomach it. “Kathie Lee Gifford makes an Autistic kid cry” Now that is a nauseating title.

You might enjoy listening to Howard Stern tell the story of how he came across this video while he was on vacation more than watching it yourself.

Either way, people really know how to make things worse. It’s unfortunate when those people are parents.

Kathie Lee Gifford Makes an Autistic Kid Cry on TV

Howard Stern on Kathy Lee’s Autistic Kid Exploitation

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This may or may not become a series also. Just like “sh*t people say about autism”, there are a few things parents of autistic kids do.. that simply are not right in my eyes.
There may be a minor educational effect, very similar those of the ‘see this family suffer!’ stories we see on the media, but displaying their own child in distress on the internet for anyone to see, judge and possibly ridicule – I just don’t understand why parents do this?!
I already see enough risks with the full exposure blogs that have photos, names and places of ANY child, let alone children with disabilities. There have been cases of abuse of imagery, nasty troll comments and so on. Once you put something on the internet, even if you delete it, copies are in circulation forever. THINK before you expose your child on the internet!

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Who’s the Weird One?

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I’ve wanted to start blogging for quite some time now. My dilemma? I could never find a niche. What am I an “expert” in? Nothing really. I just know a lot about things no one else around me seems to care about. Things like, geopolitical strategies used in the Middle East peace crisis. It’s not what most people would call a light hearted conversation. I want to tone it down. So this blog is about being me. One of those people. More specifically my life as a woman with Aspergers Syndrome.

When people go to job interviews they’re told things like, “Tell me about yourself.” I hate that. I need clarification. Where should I start? What do you really want to know? I have no instincts for that. Seeing how blogging is nothing like a job interview, I feel the freedom to do things my way instead. So, here’s a story.

Recently, I visited a doctor to get help for my ever-present confusion regarding my life and social anxiety. I always thought I was just shy but I’m not really that shy. It’s more of a feeling that I don’t “get” other people and most of them drive me insane. Living in a world where people rarely say what they mean, ask questions they’re not interested in hearing the answer to, and talk about people behind their backs incessantly, is hard for me. Wait, let me clarify. It’s hard for me because I find people so annoying. I don’t know. The point is, life is hard. No, that’s not the point either. Whatever it is, I know it sounds harsh but I want you to know the truth. My social anxiety is really somewhere between misanthropy and asociality.

After another failed attempt at employment I had to find a way to get myself some help. I told the doctor some of my issues and that I always felt like I was just “acting normal” and it was taking a toll on me. I couldn’t keep a job to save my life. We talked some more and then she asked if I had ever heard about Autism or Aspergers. I told her I read about Aspergers and the work of Tony Atwood and I was sure I had it. She agreed and said I was a “classic case” (whatever that means) and she wanted me to see a Neurologist. I immediately started to cry. Yes, right there in front of her. I felt the most intense feeling of relief. I’m not crazy, I’m just wired different. Hooray? Maybe not.

Clearly, there is more to an Aspergers Diagnosis than being an overly opinionated underachiever. The primary traits are inability to understand social cues, gestures, and intentions. If you want to skip ahead and learn more, there are lots of other blogs about Aspergers traits in women and I think they can give you an idea about my struggles.

So here I am, 30 years into my short life and suddenly I’m (unofficially) Autistic. The problem is, that’s not how it works. I’ve always been this way, I just didn’t know it was a thing until now.

If you’d like to know more about Aspies and “weirdness” I recommend you watch
Weirdness! Do you have Aspergers Syndrome? on YouTube.